Personal Notes

A little more about the person behind the camera.

Some stories go beyond the wedding day. Personal Notes is where I share more of myself, my experiences as a queer photographer, and the things that shape the way I see the world. You’ll find reflections on my own wedding as a lesbian woman, why we chose to elope, and why I believe in making space for love stories the wedding industry often overlooks. These are the experiences, questions, and values that shape my work, both behind the camera and beyond it.

A collection of personal stories, reflections, and the values behind Nilka Gissell Photography.

Lesbian couple embracing each other after wedding ceremony in Puerto Rico

Queer Wedding Photographer in Puerto Rico: 15 Years of Change

I’ve been a queer wedding photographer for more than 15 years. A lot has changed in that time, especially when it comes to LGBTQ+ couples and the wedding industry in Puerto Rico. When I started around 2011, I rarely saw queer weddings represented publicly. I’m sure couples were celebrating their love privately, finding ways to …

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Why I Photograph Couples the Wedding Industry Overlooks

Before working as an inclusive Puerto Rico wedding photographer, I spent years looking at wedding magazines and vendor portfolios like everyone else. Also, the images followed a pattern that became impossible to ignore. The same body type appeared repeatedly. The same race dominated every gallery. The same version of beauty defined what weddings looked like. …

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Retro heart shaped wedding cake for lesbian elopement at Las Vegas

What Being a Queer Bride Taught Me About Wedding Photography

Apart from being a queer photographer, I’ve also been the bride. Before I got married, I spent years inside the wedding industry photographing other people’s celebrations. Hundreds of weddings. Joy, chaos, tenderness, family tension. Every version of love showed up in front of my camera. Then my wife and I got engaged. And we made …

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Lesbian couple proposal near Castillo San Cristóbal in Old San Juan Puerto Rico, LGBTQ love story with historic backdrop and inclusive wedding photography

Weddings Later in Life, Why Age Matters in Wedding Photography

Why Age Matters After fifteen years photographing weddings in Puerto Rico, I’ve captured couples in their twenties and in their seventies. First marriages. Second marriages. Long-awaited vow renewals. What I’ve learned is simple: the industry often overlooks love stories that don’t fit its favorite narrative. Simply put, the wedding industry loves youth. Scroll through magazines, vendor websites …

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